Thursday, May 31, 2007

Mia's birth story

Prior to getting pregnant with Mia I had 2 miscarriages. Getting pregnant wasn't hard for me but staying pregnant was. When I got pregnant with Mia we prayed that 3rd time was a charm, and it was. I stayed off my feet for the first 12 weeks of pregnancy. Which was difficult because I am an avid gym devotee! After that I was told to be super cautious and careful. I had a wonderful pregnancy. I ate all fresh fruit and vegetables and drank my skim milk and took my prenatal vitamins. I did everything according to the experts. I was never sick or tired. My skin was glowing and I felt great. I gained a perfect amount of weight, 17 pounds in 30 weeks.
Then all of a sudden everything went down hill.

During week 30 my body swelled. I couldn't move my arms. I slept with my wrists in braces to help with the pain. I didn't recognize my own face in the mirror. I was gaining 4-5 pounds of water weight a night. I gained 20 pounds in a week. I attributed it to being July and what everyone told me pregnancy was like in the summer. I waited to go to the Dr. until my next scheduled OB appt. When I got there we found out that my kidneys had shut down and my blood pressure sky rocketed. It was 170/110. My normal is 110/70. I had developed a very dangerous condition called pre-eclampsia. The biggest risk of this condition is that I could have had a stroke. And based on how serious my condition had become, they thought I would stroke at any minute. I was sent from the Dr. office to Orange Regional Medical Center. I stayed there a night and was sent to Westchester Medical Center the next day. They kept me on bedrest another day so that I could have 2 steroid shots to jump start Mia's lungs. They knew that they would be underdeveloped. But the only way to save my life and hers was immediate delivery.
Then on Friday July 28, 2006 at 10:31 a.m. Mia Grace was delivered by C-section. She was gestationally 31 weeks 3 days. She weighed 2 pounds 8 ounces and was 15 inches long. She stayed in the NICU at WMC for 13 days and was transferred to the NICU at St. Luke's in Newburgh and stayed there for 4 more weeks.

Nothing can prepare you for the pain you feel leaving your child behind. It is not natural. I went to see her everyday. I sat with her from 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. every day. Some days I got there earlier and some I stayed later. I couldn't hold her a lot so I sat and watched her in her incubator. I would open the port holes and sing to her or read to her. I let her know right away that she had a mommy and that I wouldn't leave her.

Some days they would let me hold her for a few minutes some days for an hour. Those were the moments I lived for.














Finally after 6 weeks we were able to bring her home. When she came home she was exactly 4 pounds.











Now, she is doing wonderfully. She is the happiest baby I have ever seen and we love her to pieces. She sleeps all night and smiles all day. She is never fussy or grumpy. She is pure sunshine. Motherhood is all that I imagined and more. And that is my Mia's entrance to the world!













And here is a picture of my happy girl at 10 months old!

2 comments:

LaDolcevitaM6 said...

I remember the phone call from mom that you could possibly have the baby early, I had just arrived home from work and I collapsed on my kitchen floor and bawled my eyes out. I felt it was so unfair after what you two had already been through. Seeing you in that hospital bed was even worse, I had to hide my emotions to avoid getting you upset b/c your stress level could not tolerate it at all. I think I did more crying over those couple of days than I had in my whole life. I just wanted to hug you and tell you I loved you and would be right by your side. When you went in for the C-section, we all sat in the waiting room and tried to make guesses on what we thought the baby's sex and name would be. I truly thought it would be a little Kevin Jr.! When Kev came in to tell us about our Mia Grace, we all screamed with delight! I don't think I have ever seen a more proud look on anyone's face, Kev was absolutely thrilled! It was such a memorable moment. Then came my turn to go see her for the first time...my heart was beating so fast. I didn't know what to expect, I had never seen a preemie before. When I was walking up to her little "tank" and I saw her tiny little body with all those tubes and wires, my heart was so heavy. But I fell in love with her immediately. She is truly the greatest gift from God, such a perfect little miracle. I was so proud of you Emily. You have always been so strong and such a fighter, never giving up. Life doesn't always make sense, its not always fair. But we are lucky to have each other to get through trying times. I am fortunate to have someone like you to look up to. Mia is such a gift, definitely the epitome of a perfect child. So happy, easy going, and just as beautiful as can be. I am so honored to be her Aunt. You are an amazing mother and Mia is lucky to have you and Kevin(and Hank too)! I just thought you should know that. You have always been so selfless and giving. I am so proud to have you as my sister. I couldn't be more blessed to have you to look up to as I journey through motherhood myself. Now we have a new baby to look forward to meeting. Maybe a grandson/nephew finally? One day we will be able to sit Mia down and explain to her how she taught us all a lesson about valuing life, being strong, and never giving up. She has left an impact on all of our lives, and everytime we look into those big blue eyes and our heart fills with so much love, we will be reminded of the miracles that fill our everyday lives and show us how beautiful it is to be alive. I love you both so very much.
Love-Meg

The Comforts said...

Geeze guys. I had no idea you would be doing this again so soon. How cool!Congratulations! Much love and prayers are sent your way. Keep us posted. I am so happy for you yet I am so devastated about Tricia's news. Love you. Aunt Leanne